Tuesday, 27 March 2012

All that happened...

..so far. Well, for starters, the blog turned 3 years old on 25th (rather sadly). I was just checking how many posts I did last year and it is 2, not including my worthless GM diet updates on a per day basis. In spite of being asked on and on why I don't blog here and in spite of wanting to blog here more than on my food blog, I just didn't do it because, lets face it, words pour out when I'm depressed or unhappy or angry (mostly at Ro, but also at life in general) and I was ridiculously happy as a person last year. 

I knew it was all too good to last, because 2012 has not been that great for me (so far). Mentally, physically and emotionally I am a wreck..OK I'm exaggerating a bit..but what's life without some drama right? Here are some of my thoughts as a 30 something year old, who has no clue what life has in store, heck she has no clue what the day has in store for her, leave alone life.

  • My personal Facebook page has become torturous. These days I dread logging on to FB. Why? you ask? Well if its not someone getting married its someone pregnant, or baby showers or new born baby pictures or corny professional pics that's all over the place. It's so much peer pressure that it makes you wanna have a baby (like for facebooks sake). I'm so bored, but that's a good thing because I now spend very little time on FB.
  • My FB page for my food blog on the other hand, which I started just for the heck of it, has proved to be quite fruitful. Like minded people discussing food and photography, clearing doubts on food and such is fun, not to mention loads of fabulous friends I made- genuine ones who lift my spirits on a sad day. It has changed my attitude towards blogging on the whole.
  • 6 years into our marriage and we I have no clue where I stand (Ro probably has it all figured out, I'm sure). Its become seriously boring that I have soooo begun to enjoy my alone time doing whatever I please (and even fantasising scenes from Unfaithful..is that creepy?). Is that why people go ahead and have kids? A friend once said..We had a baby because otherwise we would have to talk to each other. I somehow understood what she meant. It's like this..if the internet connection conks on us one day, Ro and I would not know what to do. 
  • Every morning I wake up with a new (health) issue. This morning was no different and the issue was  hair loss. Noticed a patch with thinning hair and it freaked the hell out of me. The wretched google said there might be underlying issues, so yes that has caused enough trauma to last me one week.
  • In two minds about taking up a full time job. Pro's: I love my freelance work way to much to let go of it completely. It gives me flexibility, I write about what I love, I don't have a boss and I just acquired a few new clients who I'm extremely happy with. Con's: Pay is not that great, work is not regular and I don't get to meet new people since I work from home. I decided to meet the issue half way by looking for a part time job. Not that easy to come across in my field of work, but thinking about taking anything up, just to get out of the house once in a while and have a life.
  • On the plus side, my food blog has started making money and I am being invited to loads of events and get togethers and stuff which all this while I shunned thinking the blog was just a hobby and that I wasn't gonna spend too much time on it or for it. I finally decided to get out there and meet other food bloggers (which apparently is a big community in UK) and went for a networking event. Met loads of like minded people and journalists and pr people, had a fab night with food and drinks and was back home happy and content. I have made it a point to go to all events I'm invited to (food related) and make new friends. 
So on this 3 year anniversary, the least I could do for my blog was to give it a face lift. I am in love with all things yellow, and the blue thrown in to show, well, those days when I'm in the 'blues.' Thanks to all my 54 followers who patiently waited for me to post something and this year is the year of photography for me. I have developed a keen interest in food photography and I would love to do more landscapes and portraits. If I get out and about doing it, then I shall at least post some pics here. Till then adios amigos.

Leaving you with a few things spring and yellow.


  1. A very honest post, loved reading it, you know even if you have kids you will only have them for a while look at us, Shyama is grown up and she is off from home now it is just Hans and I always home just two of us. But then we are like we didnt get married for kids, we got married because we wanted to. So the moment she started uni we were like now we are back were we wtarted our life together, which we are really enjoying though :-)

  2. http://mikeschmid.tumblr.com/

    Listen to the song; Doesn't he resemble Ranvir Shorey ;p

    Hmmm. wonderfully revived interest in photography. try portraits too. They're challenging and my fave!

  3. wow very nice post...liked reading it!

  4. great post for starters today Nisha, glad i'm logged in for while, seriously i'm keeping myself away from FB too sometime, just for the fact that i'm commonly asked so wats next? which i'm not interested in answering, quest of life never seems to end, be it studies, marriage, production, what next then properties? huh..This year has been nerve wreaking for me too, which is keeping me away from all including blog! ...lets hope that spring brings a lot of sunshine and happiness...well congratulation for third year blog anniversary and wish you to find a job/things that gives you more satisfaction till then enjoy food and workshops!! love yellow hue, i need that kulfi?

  5. I love the story you shared here, and well ... Great recipe, gorgeous photos and a lovely write up!

  6. So i'm commenting and bugging you here as well, but don't worry, i'm not stalking you. chanced upon this blog when i saw your blogger profile. :)
    Love how honest this post is! i mean, i have similar issues making my life eventful too but i would'nt summon the courage to blog about it. but they are there all the same, and rear its ugly head every so often. so, all to say, i feel you sista!
    Next time someone asks me 'when are you having a baby?', you may be reading my posts being published from prison.
    About the vice that is fb, people who care about me (and people that i care about) stay in touch via means other than fb. i dont care much for voyeurs. or the fakesters. so i feel fb is best left when used for playing geo challenge (which is not around anymore, sadly) or brain buddies. but i'm really glad your food blog on fb has turned out for the good for you. that calls for a 'yay!' :)
    we are three years into being a married couple and i have so much to say about it, but i'd rather not. oreo is our saving grace, amongst many other things. do u like dogs Nisha? get one if you dont mind falling in love all over again. get one if you can handle the practical stuff that comes with it. get one if you really love canines. they can really turn you world upside down. in a nice way.
    i have health issues about which the less said, the better. But i take solace in thinking it could be worse (that's when i'm lucid and not going on an ugly trip of 'why, why, why me???!')
    Please dont get ensnared in the fulltime job vicious fricking cycle. i miss my freelancing days and the flexibilty it gave me more than anything. i also understand what you are saying about meeting other people, the pay and such BUT, everything comes at a price right. and i think freedom to do a little of everythin you like is one of the most expensive things. so i think its wise that you are going halfway and looking for a part time thingie. i hope you find something you like!
    and yay! its so cool to meet like minded people in the blog circuit right. i'm just a crazy amateur amateur and totally love the feeling of connecting with fellow bloggers! Here's to many many more such events and fun times for all of us!
    everythin's just a blessed phase. Stick it out and we'll laugh about it maybe next year this time :) Ciao!
    P.S: love your pictures! here in this post and in your food blog (but that i've mentioned already right).

  7. Hey why don't you write something in this space...I love to read what you write:)

  8. Beautiful Post !!! You poured your heart out in this post. Well written. Once I had read your posts on a Sunday lazy afternoon. I had just stumbled upon it. I was so impressed with your style of writing. I could relate with so many things you were talking about. The only thing I did not do was remember your blog name or become a follower. Glad to have found you again. Hang in there and do as your heart desires.

  9. I didnt knw u had updated this space;-o.
    Enjoyed reading the post, complaints and all;-D

    Pics are as usual beautiful:-))!!!!!

  10. The 7 seven year itch at 6 years :) ? Hope things have turned out better since this post....As they say, love shouldn't just sit there, it has to be made, remade and made again....

    Now let me be selfish...How is the food blog earning money? Please share tips.

  11. Thankyou for the info! Let me check out the sites you mentioned.

  12. Just clicked on an interesting blog name and I reached here.Lovely pictures, touching post and I am laughing at the thought of having babies just for the sake of fb :-)
    You are one funny person dahling :-)
    Keep smiling, just just brought a smile on my face :-)

  13. Nisha I had no clue you had another blog here. I love your frank writing, I wish I could do the same. Can so relate to almost everything you've put down here.

  14. Hi There, I have been here after a while but enjoyed scrolling through your rest of the wonderful recipes. Thanks for sharing awesome posts.
    Have a wonderful week ahead and happy holidays !!!
    Thanks & Regards, Sonia !!!

  15. Hi Nisha, in response to the comment you left on my food blog (sridevisfood.blogspot.co.uk), I would be glad to participate in the get together of food bloggers on Feb 23rd 2013. Please pass me on the details...:) and it would be great if you can share your email id for further communication. My email id is sridevikarrireddy@gmail.com. Your food blog is fantastic. :)

  16. Edi - I can't believe I am seeing this post only now. Nish - don't for one moment believe that people have perfect lives from the perfect pictures they post on Fb. EVERYone has problems - with their spouse, children and even inlaws. They post the happy moments in order to remember that it wasn't ALWAYS bad...but the way others interpret it cannot be helped.
    I love how active you are on your food blog. Don't stress about children. Don't listen to those who love to pull you down. Eliminate ALL toxic relationships. I did that with a close relative - one year this month, and I don't really miss that person at all. I feel guilty at times, wonder if things could have been handled better, but do I want to reconnect? Never! Because I don't believe that person will ever change and I cannot carry the burden of that relationship for long. But with you and Ro - trust me, it is NEVER to late Nish. Do everything you can to revive that feeling when you guys first met. I will pray for you guys.